Lately, my dreams have become more ‘daydreams’ then nighttime ones. It’s probably because by the time I go to sleep I am more comatose and unable to remember anything. Almost everyday, when I come into work, Chantelle tells me the most bizarre stories about what she dreamed of the night before. I mean, I’m talking some weird stuff! My dreams are less exciting, consisting of choices for faucets, door knobs, window treatments, toilets, moulding, paint swatches, etc. Tis the mind through a renovation, but I got to thinking, what makes a house a dream anyway? Bobby Flay as the resident chef, Mark Wahlberg as the pool boy, maybe Hugh Jackman as the postman? Oops, wait, I got distracted.
Frankly, these days, any house could be my dream house as long as it was filled with these:
and these two little ones (who were napping when we took the family pictures at the wedding, ugh!):
But I’m sure that is not the classic answer of what constitutes the house being ideal? Is it the view?
The amount of space?
As I busy myself trying to figure out how to stick our life of stuff into a house half the size, and finally make each decision of what we really want to live with, I have to ponder about what my dreams are for this house? When we were looking for a house to purchase, I asked myself in each space, could we still host Thanksgiving here? Now I realize, that is only one day out of the year, but it’s a biggee at our place. We have friends and family in each year, sometimes up to 25 people, cook for days, eat too much, pause to discuss what we are thankful for, and share hilarious family stories that seem to never get old. If you ask our youngest daughter what her favorite holiday is, she will blurt out “Thanksgiving” before you are even done with your question! So I could not disappoint the masses. We could have a house with a smaller garage, less grass to mow, fewer bathrooms, way less closets, but we could not have a house that would not accommodate a gathering.
It’s funny how over time, my idea of the ‘dream house’ has changed. Maybe that is because at one point, 20 years ago, we built our dream house. It was a large family home, nestled in the woods on a cul de sac on 3.5 acres. At the time, I think I thought we would live there forever, but as time changes all things, it took a turn that lead us back home to California and so we sold it. The bummer was, 2 years later, we ended up coming back to Michigan to the same town, but the house was already someone else’s. My dream had already been realized and I had to move on. My thoughts have evolved as our kids have grown and I long for that simple life, lived in a farm house. Not that I know what that is like and since I am not the farming type (I was born and raised in Los Angeles and never even saw a cow until I was 17 years old) I don’t know why this is so appealing, but I would freak out if I could live in a cute farm house that looked out at something like this:
Pinterest is obviously the ultimate daydream spot to see houses. As I look through pictures and admire a variety of different styles and colors, I always wonder if I could live with this or that choice. And still, what makes the house a dream? One of my favorite quotes of all time is from Elsie de Wolfe, who was one of the first interior decorators (as a profession) over a hundred years ago. I wrote this on the studs of our dream house with a Sharpie before they drywalled, it is my mantra. She said, “It’s not the homes I love, but the life that’s lived there”. This is my heart to a tee! Home is where we spend time with those we love, where we go to unwind and feel safe. It is the place we rest and ready for another day. So what dream choice should be in our home to make the life we live comfortable, stylish or whatever else is important to us? We may not be able to have our dream home, in my case the farm house I do not have, but we can have little things that are meaningful around us and make our life easier. For now, I will make the house on the corner be part of a dream, and be grateful each day that we have a lovely roof over our heads! Please leave a comment and share with us what constitutes a dreamhouse for you, we’d love to hear what you think!
Be happy, Jill